Long distance relationship

 He’s a seaman and she met him when their ship docked at the port close to where she lives. He live thousands of miles away but that doesn’t matter. For them, they won’t let distance get in the way about how they felt about each other. And what do we all think of the chances that long distance relationships will last? From 1 to 10, I bet most people will say 0.

Months after they met, she heard that he was getting married and expecting a son. Now that’s some news you don’t want to hear about someone you love. But she has to move on; that’s life. You simply just have to move on.They met once in a while, whenever his ship docks at the port in her hometown.

After a year or two, he gave her the news that he’ll be separating from his wife. Unfortunately separating doesn’t mean divorcing since he lived in a country where divorce still is not allowed. It turned out his wife met someone; leaving his son to his parents, she then took off with the guy she met. But what do you expect from a marriage when you’re husband isn’t hardly home? Not much I would say.

For the two of them, this is the chance they both have been waiting for. But knowing the reputation of a seaman, she wonders if this will work for them. They decided to take it on faith and they went for it.

After 6 years, they now have 2 children; a girl and a boy. Who would have thought that they actually would make it this far? Guess they proved us wrong.

But raising two kids alone is tough. She has to do it all. With the help from her parents, she managed. But hardly since she doesn’t receive support from him. He supports his family in his hometown leaving her with just some change once in a while. But she accepted it all; all the hardships over the past five years. But sometimes it’s just too much and she felt giving up. All she wanted is to have him and his son living with her and just be a family.

We all know this is not how life should be. They now have to face the problems and decisions have to be made. Can they go on living their separate lives like they now do? Can she still take the hardships she’s experiencing or the hardships that are still to come?

He now has decided that he will finalize the annulment of his marriage and to investigate the possibilities about going to live with her. If you ask me he should have done this long ago. But hey, no judgments here!

I think these two are struggling to survive. Will they make it? Can he get his annulment finalized to be with her? Can she wait for him and for how long? I do wish them luck and hope that one day they will be living their lives as a family.

 

Love or lust adventure

Love.. we all have different definitions of love but it all comes down to that affection you feel for another person. Or in simple words the feeling of: butterflies, head over heels, no sleep no eat, can’t leave without, etc etc etc.. Love… what is actually love? And do you go searching for it?

I know someone who, at some point in her life, decided to search for love. She never felt the feeling of love that I just mentioned and she wanted to have a taste of it. I couldn’t really blame her because I myself hadn’t really experienced it until after a very long time. I can understand her. Here’s her story.

She was born in Asia and went to school in London, later she then settled in the Netherlands. She met this guy, got married and had two adorable children. Perhaps at that time she thought she had found love, she at least had security. She had a great job which she loved doing and a husband who will do anything for her. What more can she want you think.

She also didn’t have many friends and maybe that’s why she started thinking that something was missing. She was restless and perhaps it’s also because of all the stories she heard from her colleagues. Most of them are in a healthy, happy relationships which made her think that she want to experience what she’s all been missing out the past years; FUN. Sure, she was happy with her family but she still had the feeling that she really was missing a lot of things. Till one day someone told her about dating sites and poor girl she took the advice and went for online dating.

That she has a family didn’t even stop her from dating, I think she even forgot she one. She started dating and actually done things even I wouldn’t have. Things you warned your daughters about. She did them all and she finally found the experience she wanted. She didn’t had the head of over heels or the butterflies experience but I’m sure she had the experience of lust. Unfortunately since she had the taste of it, it was difficult for her to stop or turn her back from the adventure she was having.

And of course this wouldn’t go unnoticed in the office. This went around. She became the talk of the office and her family see less and less of her. She started using a colleague as an alibi when she’s out most of the evenings. Until this colleague receives a phone call from the husband.  Oh dear.. here comes trouble. Apparently the husband didn’t believed his wife. Who would right? The husband met the colleague and during a cup of coffee the husband warned her about his wife. He warned her that she should not drag herself along with whatever adventure his wife is having, warned her not to get too close to her, because his wife can turn on her too. Perhaps like the way his wife turned on him, friendship gone and left behind with only questions he couldn’t answer. And her kids, did she even think of them?

If you want this kind of adventure and if you think that you can get away with it, I say think again. Sooner or later everything will come out.There’s always consequences when you go wild, it was just a matter of time.

After a couple of months, she got her own place and she got knocked out.  Now this is something you can’t easily cover. Luckily the father of the baby was a decent guy. They bought a house and moved in together. She filed for a divorce and her sons live with their father and she has them on the weekends and part of the holidays.

She gave birth to a girl and she seems happy. If she really is happy, I don’t know but she says she is. I just hope she really is. She doesn’t have any contact with her colleague anymore so I guess the husband is right. She did turned her back on her as well.

I guess the questions is, was it worth it? Did she found what she was looking for? Did she found love? Would you do the same?

Children’s Home

 
I grew up in a Children’s home. I was 7 when I became a part of a big family and was 14 when I left.
I wasn’t really an orphan, I have a mom whom I haven’t seen since I was five and who’s out of the country and a father who started his own family somewhere. I know my mom has to go away with the objective of providing us a better future. As I said I wasn’t an orphan.

The Children’s home I grew up was established by a dutch couple who immigrated to Canada. We call them Mom and Dad, in this story I will be calling them just that becoz they were in fact our mom and dad. They wanted to do good. So, one day they visited our country and Dad paid a visit to the youth city jail. He saw a young boy who was in trouble. He looked into this young boy’s eyes and read sir please help’. From that day Dad and Mom opened up this beautiful home and the boy was the first of many children they took in. Years past and they took more and more kids. My sister was one of them. My younger brother and I were living with our grandparents at that time. After 2 years since my sis went to the children’s home, I followed her while my brother was left under the care of my grandparents. After my grandma died, my brother was brought into the home as well. We were finally together.

After the children’s home was set up Mom and Dad returned to Canada but regularly visited us. They worked hard setting up the home; finding sponsors for the children who gave us christmas and birthday presents. My siblings and I had the same sponsor. A family who gave us presents. I remember receiving a nightgown that goes all the way to my ankles. I was so happy then. I also had my first jewelry from my sponsors. A jade necklase which I still haved till this day. Look how happy the kids are with just small gifts. We were just like them.

 In the home, we learn to appreciate and to be thankful for what we had becoz they are a lot more of unfortunate kids out there. We learned about the Bible stories; the parables, scriptures and why we celebrate Christmas. Everything was provided for; food and education, after all what more can a child want at such a young age? I know there are different stories about homes but I just want to say that I wouldn’t be me if I haven’t been in the home. I wouldn’t even think of how I turned out to be if my life was different.

Mom and Dad are unfortunate not with us anymore but they still live within their children who are now scattered all over the world. I hope that there are more people out there who are like them. Doing something good for the world, making the life of the less fortunate sweet and bearable. Becoz that’s how life should be.

Secret of life

What is the secret of life? Is there even one? Some say the secrets of life are:

  • Happy / positive thoughts
  • Families
  • Good job
  • Satisfaction
  • Good health
  • etc

For me these are not the secrets of life but merely the factors or parts of your life. But perhaps I would agree with the first one, happy or positive thinking. Because when you have that then it would kinda brighten up your day when your down, but is that enough?

Maybe the secret of life is not what we have but how we live our life. When we have nothing, can we still live? All of you would say of course yes, as long as you have food on the table and roof above your head and your health then you have nothing to complain about. I bet that’s what most people would say. But I bet there are also people who would disagree, especially when they have to struggle keeping the roof above their heads and for providing food. Then it wouldn’t be enough. It just wouldn’t be enough and I personally know some people who doesn’t have a life when this is all they have and they end up in trouble or even taking their own life.

Life shouldn’t be like this. Life should be fun but what is the secret to having a life when you barely can stand on your feet?

Perhaps the secret of life is accepting who and what we are and believing we can be what we want to be, even without resources. Is it enough to take it up on faith? Can this be the secret to keep you going?

What keeps you going? What is your secret?

Lime Orange Juice

Lime orange juice

Ingrediënts:

2 orange juice
1 lime
1/2 cup almond milk

Directions:
Squeeze the orange and lime juice, pour into a long drink glass and stir in the almond milk.
Or: peel the oranges and lime. Mix all ingredients in a blender. Keep in mind that when you use the blender you have more pulp in your glass.
Again, no need to add sugar.

What I also love is just to omit the almond milk and add some ice cubes to the orange and lime juice. This is really tasty and cool during the summer.

ENJOY!

 

Spinach Orange Juice 1

spinach orange

Another simple recipe you really have to try!

Ingrediënts:

3 orange juice
couple of strawberries
4-6 spinach

Directions:
Blend freshly squeezed orange juice, strawberries and spinach for just a few seconds.
You can add more spinach to the drink if you wish, it will make the drink darker but don’t let the color stop you from drinking because the drink is simply delicious.