Love.. we all have different definitions of love but it all comes down to that affection you feel for another person. Or in simple words the feeling of: butterflies, head over heels, no sleep no eat, can’t leave without, etc etc etc.. Love… what is actually love? And do you go searching for it?
I know someone who, at some point in her life, decided to search for love. She never felt the feeling of love that I just mentioned and she wanted to have a taste of it. I couldn’t really blame her because I myself hadn’t really experienced it until after a very long time. I can understand her. Here’s her story.
She was born in Asia and went to school in London, later she then settled in the Netherlands. She met this guy, got married and had two adorable children. Perhaps at that time she thought she had found love, she at least had security. She had a great job which she loved doing and a husband who will do anything for her. What more can she want you think.
She also didn’t have many friends and maybe that’s why she started thinking that something was missing. She was restless and perhaps it’s also because of all the stories she heard from her colleagues. Most of them are in a healthy, happy relationships which made her think that she want to experience what she’s all been missing out the past years; FUN. Sure, she was happy with her family but she still had the feeling that she really was missing a lot of things. Till one day someone told her about dating sites and poor girl she took the advice and went for online dating.
That she has a family didn’t even stop her from dating, I think she even forgot she one. She started dating and actually done things even I wouldn’t have. Things you warned your daughters about. She did them all and she finally found the experience she wanted. She didn’t had the head of over heels or the butterflies experience but I’m sure she had the experience of lust. Unfortunately since she had the taste of it, it was difficult for her to stop or turn her back from the adventure she was having.
And of course this wouldn’t go unnoticed in the office. This went around. She became the talk of the office and her family see less and less of her. She started using a colleague as an alibi when she’s out most of the evenings. Until this colleague receives a phone call from the husband. Oh dear.. here comes trouble. Apparently the husband didn’t believed his wife. Who would right? The husband met the colleague and during a cup of coffee the husband warned her about his wife. He warned her that she should not drag herself along with whatever adventure his wife is having, warned her not to get too close to her, because his wife can turn on her too. Perhaps like the way his wife turned on him, friendship gone and left behind with only questions he couldn’t answer. And her kids, did she even think of them?
If you want this kind of adventure and if you think that you can get away with it, I say think again. Sooner or later everything will come out.There’s always consequences when you go wild, it was just a matter of time.
After a couple of months, she got her own place and she got knocked out. Now this is something you can’t easily cover. Luckily the father of the baby was a decent guy. They bought a house and moved in together. She filed for a divorce and her sons live with their father and she has them on the weekends and part of the holidays.
She gave birth to a girl and she seems happy. If she really is happy, I don’t know but she says she is. I just hope she really is. She doesn’t have any contact with her colleague anymore so I guess the husband is right. She did turned her back on her as well.
I guess the questions is, was it worth it? Did she found what she was looking for? Did she found love? Would you do the same?